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Tell me what is the shortest distance between a woman and a man?
Yes, right, a woman and a man, the single most rudimentary classification of all pertinent life on earth, or in more plebian terms the world. A Woman and A Man. We all count the world by them, relationships between them, all kinds of them, and which is transcending the humanity since its very inception is the coupling of marriage. The ultimate consummatory commitent. One man to a woman, and in all its entirety also the vice versa. Its one of those elementary concepts on which entire cultures have been built. The institution of marriage, a marriage between a woman and a man. Much should not be looked into however, whether I mention a man before woman or vice versa. Well there is nothing profoundly questionable about this atomic school of social existence. Its translates perfectly into the methods in which we are are built and ingrained with instincts. So innate are they, that they have defined humanity as a race and the way it copulates. Reproduction, the most wonderful of all phenomenon, not to support or facilitate, but to generate life itself, is by far the most venerated and sacrosanct phenomenon that we all in all its sanctity pay deference to.

It drove me to interesting questions though. What came first, the institution of marriage or the need to reproduce? Are marriage's foundations built on the very fact that a communion of a woman and a man can create life, a very selfish and frugal thought for our existence as a species? Is reproduction unto marriage or marriage unto reproduction? What is the implicit purpose of a marriage, if thought on a much more wider scale, rather than individualistic? Would it so happen that if in the future by any chance if the human race is on the verge of extinction not unto any natural or earthly force, unthreatened I propose, would the subsequent government accede to polygamy and most values that are tantamount to crime today viz. having more than one sexual partners, which we sheepishly refer to as a fling today? All this to merely copulate and muster our numbers. Where do the boundaries dissolve then? Are we all living a big and basic lie built upon the needed to exist and survive as a race and eventually went to hell with it! No I don't challenge all the cushy emotions of heterosexual existence, but what just started out as an extraordinary, perhaps instinctive reveries, or even possibly an inquisitive bodily explorations of our cavemen forefathers, has compounded and wonderously translated into a way of life? All of talk about getting old, having a 'family' and finding 'the one' and grow old with that person, does it impinge, granted you consider for a moment that we as males and females are not confounded by the ultimate sin, that we are more inundated by what happens around us than what we really want, or do not want at all? Is being a homosexual one big insult, like someone who commands all slander upon his or her very existence? What's the big deal about having sex anyways, just that it is five minutes or maybe more depending on your own capacities and satisfaction parameters, of pure and unadulterated euphoria. Yes I agree that you are totally bereft of all things that go inside your psyche, even for a millisecond, in an orgasm. It is by far the most natural and harmless drugs straight for his, or her if some conscious activist might be offended, factory. By the way, the only other method to be iotically freed of all worries in the most nimble and expeditious way is nothing more profound that a simple sneeze. You cant even keep your eyes open. An orgasm is just another protracted aliter to this heavenly state or nirvana. Historically, this habitat of amalgamation has altered the course of our world, and has changed the way we are today. Countless decisions may have been abated, altered or even exonerated, if we would not be leading the life we are made to live. The beautiful deception of nature is however, the natural predilection we all have, the extra lean towards the opposite sex, on all matters and propositions. And we all celebrate and cavort in this serenditpity or one of the prophecies that might have read on the signposts to the garden of Eden. The rules and the logical overrides. Is it our fate, our destined ascent as the most prevalent species on the face of this planet? Yes we have the most cogent of all brains that roam and inhabit this land, but mere intelligence and acuity does not guarantee survival. One major incontrovertible norm is that of population. Entire species of more adroit beings can be wiped off by some lesser breeds based upon the arithmetic of sheer numbers. And this is where this phenomenon to procreate has gained favor of being referred to as the animal instinct. Its the only quarter where bulls and beavers are more felicitous than us, refer to the various synonyms that are used to epitomize ferocious and passionate lovemaking, a bull, a tiger etc etc.

But is companionship all that we want? Is sex that you would look for in a relationship after five years, talking on mundane terms? Is not what matters in the end is friendship or rather companionship? Does only the father have the right to raise a child, if there is another equally concerned individual to take care, or do we need to refer to as men and women at all? Do the lines shimmer away somewhere down the line when all we talk of is companionship? What's the world's infatuation with the three letter word anyways? Can two people of opposite sexes and of course proximate ages stay together without the need to get physical with each other? Isn't sex ultimately pleasure? A pleasure that can be savored eyes closed, without the thought of who is giving it to you, or rather a person of which sex is giving it to you?

If all these questions are in the affirmative to contemplate, then all this brouhaha of virility and chivalry subsides to almost being non sensical. Males trying to outsmart and compete for females, as is a phenomenon across all life forms, but accounting on the difference of our mental prowess, we can make an attempt to understand and counter relate to all these norms about having sex. A very liberal and abstrusely inviting thought, but only hampered by this necessary evil of being a part of the society. Does it help to be bi-curious? It gives a better understanding and a psychological advantage of understanding the two sides of the proverbial coin.
Even as I stretch my thoughts and posit questions and theories one after other, I don't know if I bely my own proclivities, since half of my life has been spent hopelessly wooing the opposite sex... Anyways, Is the human mind, considering the chemical evolution of all our glands and brain, ready for this? Does it all at the end of the day boil down to finding the right person and get on with it? I am being flagrant and at times fraudulent some of my hypothetical readers may believe. After all, marriage is not to fortify your spouse's body, with a seal of consummation on your partner, its not about really finding each other on the bed only. The plug and socket theory goes a long way, but its not the only one that goes. The most beautifully advertised relationship of friendship does. So I do provide aliter questions too. This also does mean, there is nothing called as 'straight', 'gay' and 'lesbian'. Bi-curious is a more pertinent word. So the next time we see an attractive opposite sex, particularly males, and as they inadvertently fawn all the way down to the cleavage, it might ring a bell, that is that the ultimate thing? The epochal factor? Would you be happier with a member of the same sex that understands you and fully compliments you or with some opposite sex who is sparsely involved and your union serves fewer things more than promulgating your family tree? Alternatively, does some man who is not your husband who does not hit with his opinions over your head mean more to you than some cavalier imperious male you got married to?

Who is everything you want, who is everything you need,
who is everything inside of you that you wish you could be?
Who said all the right things at exactly the right time,
And you wish he means much more to you, whether you know why or not is another matter.
The stale old concepts of 'winning your girl' though eventually debauching into 'whining at your girl', alternatively stereotyping a sex's role, all talking into the judgemental periphery the issues of rights and socialist norms, eventually does translate into this single most ecclestial fact.
I am in no way being contemptuous to this splendid practice of getting married. Its just a progeny of a more liberal onset of life that is possible in today's world. And in no way, is this wicked or scarilegous. If it still found out to be, then I guess it is the intial friction of a non conformist and largely embryonic idea, as all others likewise are destined to receive.

Like Humans Do.
Like Humans Do.